Dating For Single Parents

HEY YOU SHOULD KEEP THE CHILDREN SEPERATE FROM YOUR NEW RELATIONSHIP UNTIL YOU ARE SURE YOU WANT TO PURSUE IT. THERE IS NO SET TIME LIMIT ON THIS AS YOU WILL KNOW WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT FOR HIM TO MEET THE KIDS!

IF YOU DO DECIDE TO INTRODUCE HIM THEN YOU SHOULD KEEP INVOLVEMENT TO A MINIMUM AS TOO MUCH TIME TOGETHER MAY LEAD TO RESENTMENT FROM YOUR KIDS.

GOOD LUCK!

When I met my husband I had two boys. I kept it at mostly phone convos for the first month, and we went out on three dates when I could find a sitter for my boys close to their bedtime. I would say for your children’s sake, don’t introduce them to another man unless you are feeling like that man could be a possibility of a serious committed relationship. Every guy they meet they have to say good-bye to if it doesn’t work out and that is very hard on them. It gives them the wrong idea about relationships and love. You need to focus on your children’s needs first, and if the guy your seeing can’t be as patient as you need him to be, then he’s the wrong guy.

And once your children are involved, I think you should find more child bonding activities for you to all do together. Just look to your babies for the answers. They will let you know what they are ready for. And just make sure they know, mommy loves them the most no matter what.

When i was a single mom.. I could pretty much weed out immature guys or the guys that I knew I wasn’t going to mesh well with after 1 or 2 dates.
When I met my hubby, I felt like things would go really well for us even after the first date. We dated a lot during the week night and weekend evenings when my daughter went to sleep. We were living with my mom. So, that wasn’t difficult- for me to plan date at 7:30 pm. lol
I introduced the two of them after 2 months and we planned a day at the state park and a children’s art museum.
I introduced him as a friend (she was only 2) but I had many male friends anyway, and she didn’t think much of it. That day really gave HIM a feel for how my daily life goes and I got to see how she responded to him.

I think you will know in your gut when things are right.

Well the first answerer was good (although the all CAPS was annoying…) At the same time, don’t spend a bunch of time dating without your kid’s knowing it…

When I was 15 I started babysitting for my neighbor about once a week. She was single and had two kids (about 10 and 12 when I started) for two years, once a week she would go out partying/clubbing/bar hopping from about 11 to 3 AM. I’d come over after the kids were asleep and watch her house, do some homework, etc. As far as I know, the kids never knew. easiest (yet saddest) $7/hour i ever earned.

I somewhat agree with the second poster. When I was a single mom, I was careful to only spend time with whomever I was dating when my kids were not home, or in bed. I did not allow anyone to come over when they were awake.

When my husband and I first started dating, we would mainly talk on the phone, or go out when we didn’t have kids (he also has custody of his daughter, so he had to be careful too). Then, it progressed to where he would come over and bring his daughter, and the kids really didn’t think any more of it than that he was bringing her over to play. We waited about 6 months to really let them know we were together. Now we are married, and my sons love him! But, every situation is different, so mostly you have to follow your gut. You will know what is right.

I been single mom for period of time. I had a boyfriend when my son was one. But he knew him since he was 3 months old and was calling him daddy. We were friends when he was 3 month old. But haven;t been with someone for good while. But last summer later winter I kinda started seeing someone new. The boys enjoyed him but I left him during my pregnancy with his kids. Because he wasn’t respecting me or the boys. Always yelling and seem like controlling guy. So I left. I found a new guy. And he really wonderful. We started dating last July 2008 during my pregnancy. The boys and the baby haven’t met him yet. Two weeks or less they will be meeting him for the first time. He wants to do things with the boys has the family. He getting to know them and wants to adopt all three of my children already. Our relationship have been getting serious.

I have to watch out with I am dating someone. Because my 5 year old son doesn’t know who his daddy his because his dad has nothing to do with him. Once he gets to know someone I am dating. He calls them daddy.

I am a single mother, and I have only dated one guy since. It was long distance for most of the relationship, but we met through friends. He would come visit often, we would talk on the phone almost every night, and we just clicked, finally after about 6 months I decided to introduce him to my kids. I said he was my friend, and we went to go visit him for a change. My kids and him adored each other, and the way he was with them just made it seem perfect. But recently we broke up, it has been hard on all of us, but I know he is still hoping, and maybe in the future we will be again, just need a break. My kids miss him, and ask to call sometimes. I think in the future if there are more relationships I will wait longer to introduce.

ok ill do it question by question lol

my daughter is 18 months and i have been on ne date since she was born, when im ready to date(right now i just seriosly dont have the time to date) it would be every second weekend id be available (whens my daughter is at dads) for a few months maybe more until i knew really where the relationship was going.

for the second q pretty much straight away, i want someone that is mature and takes life seriously as at the end of the day i have to be when my daughter is involved but thats just me, take the first date i went on, he was a very good friend of mine but i just knew it wouldnt work as he is just a joker nothing is important or serious to him, hes late for work all the time etc hes just not for me.

introduction time, would probably be as soon as i know im serious and we are serious, i would start of lightly too:)

Ugh, let me think here. My oldest was around my current boyfriend before she was even born, and after wards..she was also around her 2 sisters fathers as well.
With my current boyfriend we have always been friends since we were younger and i did not feel the need to separate him from my children at all. There were times when we would not speak to each other and I just didn’t really date that many other men other than him after my oldest was born..
I do believe that i secluded my other two children’s’ fathers from the oldest, etc for about a month while dating and so on before i introduced them to each other.
Once introduced with my second child’s father my oldest was almost always included because he had other children as well. With my youngest child’s father the other two were involved with mostly everything except going to movies, etc.

My sister spent ZERO time away from her son. If she didn’t bring him, she wasn’t going anywhere. He was a year old, and she introduced them before they started officially dating.