Dating For Single Parents

What are the effects of single parent dating habits on their children?

I have a friend who is a single mom to three boys all under the age of 10. In the last 2 years she has dated 4 men who she fell in love with quickly and made them part of her children’s lives. The boys bonded to each one and then suffered when the relationships ended. I was wondering if there are any good studies or books on the long-term effects of this pattern on the children.

Originally posted 2009-11-26 03:39:50. Republished by Old Post Promoter

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Single Cruisers Can Go With A Group Or on Their Own

Single cruising is a lot of fun because of the friendly people you meet. Many cruise lines have special parties for single cruising passengers so that you can get to know your other single cruisers.

However, if you are a first time cruiser it is recommended that you go on an organized single cruise. There are a lot of reasons for this. First of all you are guaranteed that there will be other singles on board. As a group you will have all kinds of special activities. The first night of your cruise the group will hold a cocktail party. It is a kind of “getting to know” you soiree for the entire single cruising group. There are other advantageous, sometimes they arrange a hotel stay the night before the cruise so you will already know who your fellow single cruisers are. During the cruise they will host games, organize group tours and of course, group dining. The organizers sometime set up message boards so the group can talk before the singles cruise begins.

Don’t try to go around the travel agency that is organizing the singles cruise because you think you can get it cheaper. Yes, you will be on the cruise with all the singles, but you won’t be able to participate in the activities. The organizing travel agency will issue identification for the group of single cruisers and will have security at the functions so there will be no crashing the party. I spoke to a guy once who tried to do this and found out to late that he would be excluded. He even tried to pay to get into the activities but that was not allowed, so he missed out.

There are always questions on whether or not you should book a single cabin or take the risk of a roommate assigned by either the cruise line or the organizing travel agency. This depends on how agreeable you are. Of course, you might end up with someone who is rude, so you are taking a chance. If you don’t want to take the chance, book your own cabin which will be a bit more expensive.

The travel agency will try to pick someone that is compatible. Criteria such as age, a smoker or not, and naturally, sex are used when trying to match cabin mates. If you opt to let them choose a cabin mate they may supply you an email address to contact the cabin mate so you can set some rules in advance. Find out what your cabin mates sleep habits are. If you’re an early riser and your cabin mate likes to party, there will be a problem. Be flexible, the other person may want to set some rules too. The biggest problem with a stranger in the cabin on a singles cruise is that they might meet someone special and want to use the cabin for a few hours with you not in it.

The organizing travel agency will set up the dining arrangements. If after the first night you are uncomfortable with your table talk to the Maitre D’ he will help you. From the information I have gotten, the organizing travel agency will usually mix the tables up every night so that everyone has a chance to interact. That is the ideal solution. If you have taken the plunge solo and booked your own cruise the same goes for you, speak to the Maitre D’ and he will help you. Many ships now have a variety of dining options where you and pick where you want to eat and when.

Younger single cruisers should stick to three and four day cruises. One, because they’re cheaper and two, you don’t use up a lot of vacation time. Pick a three day cruise on a weekend that falls on a holiday and you won’t use up any vacation time at all. Three days is a short time to meet people, but single cruisers are sailing with the intention of meeting people so they won’t be shy. If you booking this on your own, research which cruise lines offer special single cruising dates. The over 40 crowd will be on longer cruises because they have more money and time.

If you are a single parent and you want to cruise with your kids choose a line that has a good children’s program. That way your kids are supervised and you are free to do what you please. Many travel agencies are catering to this need and are setting up single cruises for parents and their kids. So do some research to find agencies that are offering a program for single parent cruisers with children.

If you are a single cruiser and you don’t want to go on an organized single cruise, there are message boards out there where people post that they are looking for a roommate. It’s a gamble, but if you really want to take a cruise and need to save money it is an option. There are two ways to do this. Choose a singles cruise; get the prices and the post a message to see if there are any takers. Or pick a date or an itinerary, do your post and see if anyone else is interested. It’s risky but if someone answers your post you have plenty of time to talk over the internet to see if you are compatible.

Single cruising is fun but don’t set your heart on finding that special someone. Take a single cruise with the idea of having fun and meeting new people that may become fast friends. Chances that you will meet your life mate are very small but it will be fun trying. Maybe, when you least expect it, your dream will come true.

For more mature female cruiser, look to the fancier cruise lines. They are a bit pricier but they usually have dance hosts and will seat you with the single gentlemen for dining.

Some cruise lines have seen the advantage of attracting single cruisers and have lessened the single supplement. In the past Crystal, Radisson and Sliversea have reduced their single cruisers supplements. These are all luxury lines.

For you single cruisers who want to brave it on your own here are some cruise lines that offer single cabins.

Cunard’s QE2 was built with 122 single cabins, the new Queen Mary 2 has none. Besides the QE2, only Costa, Peter Deilmann Cruises, Holland America, NCL, Orient Line and Swan Hellenic still have a few single cabins on some of their ships, and these tend to be the older ships. One exception to the rule is Discovery World Cruises. While their ship MV Discovery has only two dedicated single cabins, 169 double cabins are also designated as singles and sold at a single rate. Peter Deilmann Cruises also offers a single rate on double cabins on most of their river ships.

Call your travel agent and talk about single cruising and what’s best for you.

Happy Cruising!

Copyright © Mary Hanna, All Rights Reserved.

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Originally posted 2009-12-06 16:02:17. Republished by Old Post Promoter

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Job Search Help: The 5 Most Important Gifts Parents Can Give Their New College Graduate

As winter sets in and graduation dates draw ever closer, most parents’ minds inevitably begin to fix upon the ultimate reward for the education they’ve supported; in other words, on that first real job.

Unless your son or daughter has a degree (or destiny) that leads them directly into a specific role – such as doctor, accountant, lawyer, etc – helping them determine what that first position should be can be far more daunting than helping them determine which college to attend. For one thing, there will be never be another time in their career that offers them more opportunity. The new class of college graduates is the single greatest source of management-capable workforce and the largest entrance pool in the nation. Nearly every major corporation in the world provides an clear, accessible entry point to their workforce for this inexperienced yet high-potential recruit. So how do they decide?

The good news is that, as a parent, you can provide far greater support and encouragement in this effort than simply asking “Have you found a job yet?” In fact, you may actually be able to contribute significantly without being seen as meddling or domineering. The five “gifts” below can go a long way in helping your child begin their new career – and could even be the first steps toward building a new, adult relationship.

1. Listening. Your son or daughter has just spent at least four years attending a school to learn an array of material. They have not been groomed to take on a career. In fact, many of their favorite college professors make a point of persuading students to stay in school for more degrees, not leave for a career. So the idea of what they’ll do with their degree has not been top-of-mind. Even if they graduate with a degree in business, let’s face it: They really have absolutely no idea what’s really “out there.” If they’ve spent time in an internship, they’ve most likely experienced a carefully crafted regimen of “responsibility” and socialization exercises designed to evaluate their aptitude for a position within that company – and bring back good PR to the college campus for future candidate recruitment efforts. Who has your students’ best interests at heart? This is where your knowledge of their strengths, passions, character and ideals can be of great assistance. Spend time listening to help them identify and understand their interests, disinterests, tendencies, habits and vulnerabilities. In what environment do they best perform? Do they find value in being a “big fish in a small pond” with a vague job description or would they rather receive specific direction and a precise career path? Do they care more about the product manufactured by the company or the corporate responsibility and community service efforts? Do they crave communication or would they rather be left to their own devices? These questions can help them begin to formulate their own checklist within their own framework of the most desired attributes of a company and a position.

2. Networking. If there’s a “most important life skill” to learn in the business world, networking would be at the top. This is not your Facebook networking; this is the way that people who intend to establish, groom, maintain and grow relationships in a professional world act, treat others and develop a reputation. The best way to begin this process is to introduce your student to professionals you know in many different fields. Your son or daughter has had such limited opportunity to understand what happens in a company, how a company is run, what type of positions are available within most companies, that they have no frame of reference upon which to draw when searching for a job. Encourage them to ask for informational interviews so they can query various professionals regarding their backgrounds and the attributes of their companies. This will give them an opportunity to begin to establish their own relationships. Don’t believe the hype. The number one source of a job is not on the Internet. The greatest odds of landing a job are still determined by who you know and who knows you.

3. Encouragement. Remind your student to utilize the career services at his/her college or university. This office can provide a wide-range of helpful and valuable tools for resume-writing, aptitude testing, interviewing tips and practice, alumni-networking, on-campus interviewing experiences with companies and career exploration events. You have paid for this service with your tuition. In most cases, your son/daughter will be eligible to take advantage of these services forever, not just upon graduation.

4. Perspective. Remind yourself that this is their job search. The perfect job for you is not necessarily the perfect job for them. The fastest-growing trend in entry-level position compensation is establishing healthcare and retirement benefits. This is not due to an increase in twenty-something retirement issues but, rather, the result of the experiences parents often face having an influence on the decisions and biases of their children. Please refrain from encouraging your student to become enamored with a company because you eat their cereal or recognize their name from a television advertisement. There are many, many exceptional companies who’s success is greater than those you might recognize and who could provide a valuable, fulfilling career path in prominent, lucrative fields.

5. Respect. The grueling, repetitive and exhausting lessons in manners and respect that you’ve taught your child are finally going to play a significant part in your child’s job search and success. Everything you’ve taught them – from not interrupting and looking them in the eye to writing thank you notes and not talking with your mouth full – is going to count for something during this experience. Show them the respect that you have taught them to give. Trust me: They’ll respect you for your advice, encouragement and counsel.

Laurie Byrne / Honor Roll Online

Originally posted 2009-12-06 16:13:18. Republished by Old Post Promoter

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What Hawaii Christian Singles should have in Mind prior to Perfecting their online dating Relationships

Some things make online dating a success, while others might cost you a very important date. When you are in online dating, it is very important to trend careful, so that you can have dating to the fullest, as you trend towards what makes online dating a success. Hawaii Christian singles must do this, so that in the end they might live in the kind of relationships they have always wanted. For a Christian, online dating should be done via a site that offers the best online services to Christians, so that everything might head towards the right direction, dating that is, and finally marriage.

Christians in online dating must remember they are meeting people they have never met, and they cannot put their trust on strangers. It might be a Christian dating site but be sure not everyone there is. Some might be fraudsters after swindling Hawaii Christian singles and have found a Christian portal to be the right place to try their trade. Thus, handle all your online dating endeavors with the right attitude and care, as most of the people trying out online dating are genuinely in search of a person like you. You should not ignore your instincts or any signs warning you against a person who might be stressing that you meet as soon as possible.

On the onset, try to understand why you are online for Hawaii Christian singles and you will understand how to move along. If you have been in a divorce or you are a single parent, and you are searching for a life partner to change you, make sure you state so in your profile to avoid anybody from falling for you only to be disappointed at the end. After you have received a couple of interested people, and you find you cannot match, it is good to be courtesy and send them a message stating clearly with kind words why you match. If you are a woman, you must remember that the men are your brothers in faith and hurting them will not augur well with your beliefs.

Hawaii Christian singles, men to be specific, should know how handle the women they meet online. For instance, there is no need to push the woman too quickly. There is no need to hurry dating and relationships, since you might not understand the person as it should. A relationship is about understanding each other and finding a common path of socialization. You should be willing to respect the woman by letting her to be comfortable before you move forward with the relationship.

For men in Hawaii Christian singles dating, it is important to remember the women are fellow sisters in Christ and they should be treated that way. It means they have to be accorded respect, kindness, patience, respect, honor, self-control and many others that depict the essence of the Christian faith.  It is what makes a relationship to go places, and you will never be afraid of losing the date since you have a perfect base.

Originally posted 2009-12-12 05:57:22. Republished by Old Post Promoter

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Homework Organization for Students (and Their Parents)

I spend a lot of time at my seminars and workshops, on the phone and via email discussing the subject of homework organization. Actually, I spend a lot of time listening to parents complain that their children’s homework disorganization is driving everybody crazy!

Many students have such a hard time getting it together that by the time they finally sit down to do their homework, they are exhausted. No wonder they don’t want to do it! Getting organized will help alleviate exhaustion, bad attitudes, procrastination and rebelliousness.

Homework organization just makes life easier for everyone.

These are the homework organization tips that I use as a student, teacher and parent. Print this list and read it with your children. Then, post it on the fridge and refer to it often so that everybody (parents, kids, babysitters, grandparents) will be on the same organized page.

At School:

Write down every, single homework assignment in one place. I strongly recommend using a bound or wire notebook- definitely NOT a loose leaf binder. I don’t care how careful you are, pages will fall out, and then what? You won’t know what to do nor when to do it! A plain notebook is fine, but a datebook or calendar is the best. Some schools even provide these to students. Use it.

Write down homework assignments as you get them. This is mostly for older students that change classes and teachers, but it is a good habit for everyone. If the teacher says, “Oh, tonight I want you to read Chapter 4,” write that down in your notebook.

Write down every, single due date for a project or paper- even if you have a handout or syllabus. Handouts disappear (I think they hang out with loose socks), but you will still know what to do and when to do it if you have everything written down in your homework notebook.

Keep ALL of the day’s homework assignments together in one place. Don’t have a special place or page for math, another for writing, etc. You want to see everything in one spot.

Check your homework notebook Three (3) Times A Day:

1. Before you leave school (or each class), double check to make certain that you have everything (books, paper, materials, etc.) that you will need later.

At Home:

2. Before you start doing your homework, look at your notebook and make sure that you are doing the right assignment, the right page, etc.

3. Before you put everything away, take one more quick look. Did you do everything? Good!

Make a decision about where you will put your completed homework: into a binder pocket, a special homework folder, etc. You may decide to have a color-coded folder for each class. If you choose to use folders, I strongly recommend using 3-hole punched folders and keeping them together in a 3-ring binder. Whatever you choose, stick to it! Don’t put your homework in your a binder today, a folder tomorrow… And, never, ever fold your homework into a book or throw it loose into your backpack! Shudder!

Use your Magic Homework Box. You do have one, don’t you? The Magic Homework Box is a box with all of the homework supplies and materials a student needs on a regular basis. These supplies only come out of the Magic Homework Box during homework time, so you always have what you need. Now, that’s magic!

Clean up as soon as you are finished with your homework. Now, not later! Put completed pages in your homework folder, then put the folder and homework notebook in your backpack. Not only will mornings will be less crazy, you won’t have to sit in class knowing that you did your homework and forgot it at home (doh!). Don’t forget to put away the dictionary and any other books you may have used.

Remember to put everything back into your Magic Homework Box. In my house, homework is not “done” until everything is cleaned up and put away.

Keep your backpack organized. Throw away all of those candy wrappers and random pieces of paper. Keep one area or pocket filled with a few items (pencils, a sharpener, maybe a calculator) so that you can do your homework anywhere- maybe even before you get home!

Remove any graded test, project, report or paper that your teacher has taken the time to return to you. Why? You might need it to study for a test, for a portfolio or for a project. You can throw everything away at the end of the semester or the school year, but until then put each item in its own subject file, but NOT in the homework folder. Remember, homework folders are ONLY for completed homework that is ready to be turned in!

Don’t give up! They say it takes 21 days to form a good habit. If you forget to do something on this list, don’t stop trying. Hey, maybe if you remember to write down all of your homework or clean up for 21 days in a row, your mom or dad will do something extra nice for you! (Parents, that was a hint!)

A Note to Parents about Homework Organization

Please remember that your job is to give your children organizational tools and show them how to use them. Your job is NOT to organize your child’s homework! So, in the beginning, you might check your son’s homework notebook to make sure that he is writing down all of his assignments in one place, but you would never dream of calling the teacher and checking. You might watch as your daughter copies the science project due dates into her homework notebook; you will not do it for her.

Yes, I know that it is hard to let go- I’ve been there! But, we want our children to be organized and independent learners, right?

You can do it!

(For more information about recommended homework organization products and The Magic Homework Box, please see site information below.)

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Bbw: how to find and meet men who love Plus Sized Women – There are thousands of single loving men looking for their own bbw – full bodied woman

“Kate, I thought there were supposed to be men out there who love, uh, full bodied women like me. Where are they?”

I have been a relationship therapist for 3 decades and have seen the troubles that body image have caused. But times have certainly changed.

Plus sized women are definitely “in.” Queen Latifah, for instance, has gained a truly devoted following of men. “I have to make a confession,” said Steven Bouchard of Seattle, Washington. “I find Queen Latifah’s big, beautiful body to be super sexy and I’d give anything for a date with her. I’ve always had a thing for fat black women and she really is the epitome of everything I find attractive.” Steven’s not the only one.

Body image has proved to be a the root of many relationship problems over the decades. It’s surprising how many women used to put up with abusive, insulting husbands, even accepting (or denying) their womanizing. Today, there’s no need of this.

It’s very easy for big women – bbws – to find loving men.

Winnie, of the romantic relationship site WUVING.com, has said “The most popular relationship site online is without a doubt BBW Cupid.com! Plus sized women are meeting men who not only love them as they are – but truly worship them. I am seeing incredible romantic matches being made there.”

On BBW Cupid you can search the MEN’S PROFILES. There are thousands of single loving men looking for their own BBW. You can enter the chat room. Email them. Check out the photos and profiles. You can put on your own Profile! It’s all there for you to find tour True Loving Man. And see their hot new BBW Blog – “A brand new blog featuring articles on love, work, dating, health, and living as a larger lady. The blog is an interactive community of BBW women so if you have any questions about life, or just want to leave us a comment – we’d love to hear from you! We are one of the leading plus size dating site, created especially for big ladies. Our goal is to unite thousands of singles worldwide! Sign up for a free membership and find big beautiful women for chat and dating.”

See more at WUVING.com – Free Online Dating Tips.

Meet women and men locally and worldwide. Specialized categories with people looking for longlasting love and romance in mind.

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- Kate Falken

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Do parents eventually come around if you marry without their blessing?

Me and my boyfriend have so much in common and he is everything I want in a man.I am everything he wants in a woman.We want to get married this year.We met late last year. My parents were so suspicious and they are still kind of being too protective just because we met via an online dating service. I am steady telling them that plenty of successful marriages are out there by people who met via internet dating.I am reading some success stories of people who met via the internet who are still happily married. Not everyone online is a sick pervert.My parents are such worry warts just because I’m their only.
We are going to get married with or without their blessing.
They also need to bare in mind that since I’m their only child, that if they want to see their future grandchildren that they need to come around eventually.They are always going on and on about how they want to be grandparents.Well like it or not he will be the father of their future grandchildren.
I’m a grown woman.I’m 27 years old and I am fully capable of making great decisions as I many times do and I have faith in God.
I wanted to hold the marriage off for another year as to not incur their wrath, but this is my life and I’m an adult and I’m not their little girl anymore and they really need to calm down.I’m not going to be single for the rest of my life just to satisfy them and they need to get with the new century and realize that a lot of couples are meeting via the Internet and most of the stories I read and see are successful.
Do parents come around if you marry without their blessing?
And especially since they want grandchildren so bad and I’m the only way they’re going to have grandchildren, since I’m their only child?

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Dating, singles in their 40’s. Where to meet people?

I’m 44, my only child is grown, and I have more time now to consider dating. I just can’t find anyone to date! I was a single parent for 17 yrs, had multiple health issues, am doing better, but feel pretty isolated.

I would love to find a great companion. I live in a midsize town,yet there is really nothing to do here. It’s spread out and quite boring I’m actually thinking of moving, but that’s a whole other step in itself!
Any suggestions for a youthful progressive town with lots to do? Somewhere with of outdoor activities, water,music venues, and creative arts abundant?

I’ve gone on Match.com, but not impressed with it. EHarmony was a waste of money. Maybe there are tips I should know or other sites to meet quality people? [Not married ones, players,etc.] I guess you can’t eliminate that’; that’s life!
There aren’t singles groups in my area, no park to go to,my church doesn’t have any type of clubs related to this. I’m not from here, so friends are few.

Thanks!
Thanks experts, I need ya!

** Any specific dating sites out there related to hobbies?
I enjoy traveling!
Love funky art, live music.
Being near any water!
Going for walks, reading, coffee shops. Cooking, gardening.
Sculpture, pottery, rocks.
Or clubs you can recommend.
I’M A WOMAN BY THE WAY. THE NAME HERE HAPPENED BY ACCIDENT.

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